This conversation got me thinking, I was reading about two types of parents from the 2013 research on parents with learning and attention issues, found in The State of Learning Disabilities. Parents of children with attention issues and LD are grouped into two categories: Strugglers Vs. Optimistic.
Being proud of yourself ties directly into being a proud parent of a child who is facing a challenge. The attitudes and mindsets we model as parents are being absorbed by our little ones. I knew the risk and the chances of my daughter being like me; we entered into the toddler stage and she barely spoke.
Without knowing; I experienced parenting both as a struggler and optimistic parent. First, I felt the stressed, anxiety, and worry I faced about my child's future to verbally express herself. These feelings didn't last long. I went into the optimistic parenting phase very quickly. So far, I've been successful in navigating life with a disability, she will have a good example of what hard work looks like. I was confident that my daughter would be successful; she's a fighter.
How do you set up a 2 year old or any child for success to show them that you are a proud parent?
- Praise effort instead of praising the out come.
- Allow your child to fall forward without hesitation; allow your child to be fearless and not afraid to fail.
- Smart is what you become not who you are
Remember to walk by your child's side hand in hand; confident in their abilities. Refrain from dragging them through life's challenges kicking and screaming or following behind waiting to correct each mistake.